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There are only a few days left before the year is over and I’ve already started thinking about my 2018 goals.

Before I say good-bye forever to 2017, I should probably review the previous 12 months. This is where I hesitate, because end of the year reflections can be really overwhelming. A quick internet search of “year-end reflection questions” yields results like:

  • 50 Questions to Help You Review 2017
  • 25 Questions to Ask Yourself Before the End of the Year
  • 20 End of the Year Reflection Questions

I don’t know how you feel, but I think 50 questions is ALOT of questions! Even 20 is a lot. I have 2 young kids and I can’t even go to the bathroom by myself. How will I have enough time or brain power to answer 50 questions before the end of the year!?!?

To my relief, I also found this simple 3 question year-end review by Marie Forleo.

I can answer 3 questions.

1. What did I do, make or experience that I’m really proud of?
2. What mistake did I make and what did I learn from it?
3. What am I willing to let go of?

Here’s Marie’s video:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SbKUN6mJHjc

1. What did I do, make or experience that I’m really proud of?
I’m really proud of my Etsy Shop. I’m proud that it’s filled with things that I thought of and brought to life. I’m proud of the cute designs. Mostly, I’m proud of the smiles my designs bring to people.

I am also really proud of my decision to stay with my kids and homeschool. I’m proud of the people they are becoming. I see their love for God growing. I see their compassion for people growing. I see their willingness to serve others. I am proud that I get to be their main influencer and encourager.

2. What mistake did I make and what did I learn from it?
The mistake I made was neglecting to take care of myself.
I didn’t drink enough water.
I didn’t sleeping enough.
I didn’t take enough deep breaths.
I didn’t laugh enough.
I didn’t spend enough time alone.

I learned that I cannot take care of others if I do not take care of myself.

3. What am I willing to let go of?
I’m willing to let go of my desire to please everyone.
I’m willing to let go of the idea that I can control what others think of me.
I’m willing to let go of my need to be liked and accepted by everyone.

The truth is I cannot please everyone and when I try, I’m miserable.
The truth is I can’t control what others think of me. What others think of me probably has a lot more to do with who they are than who I am.
The truth is not everyone will like me or approve of my life choices, and that’s okay.

Now that I’ve taken a few moments to reflect on the 2017, I am officially ready to bid farewell to 2017 and say hello to 2018.

Yesterday was election day. Whether you submitted a ballot or not, you still have a chance to vote. How? Every day is voting day. Every day we cast our votes for what we deem important. How we spend our money, where we go, what we watch and who we spend time with are all votes.

How will you vote today?

There are a lot of things I can make today. There are a lot of things I can do. There are a lot of ways I can spend my time. But most important of them all is to make today meaningful.

Here are a few ways I can make today meaningful: hug, laugh, encourage, kiss, smile, give, rest, play, work, nurture, love and listen.

How do you make your days meaningful?

make today meaningful

Today I’m explaining to KidFish where the sun goes at night time.
Today I’m taking KidFish to the farmer’s market to let her taste how delicious ripe summer fruits can be.
Today I’m encouraging KidFish to be generous with her toys.
Today I’m celebrating with KidFish when she puts on her own shoes (even if they’re on the wrong feet).

Some might call this “raising a child.”
It’s not.
I’m not raising a child.
I’m raising a woman.

A woman who knows that the world does not revolve around herself.
A woman who lives a healthy lifestyle and takes care of her body.
A woman who joyfully shares what has been given to her.
A woman who is confident, works-hard and knows the satisfaction of a job well done.

KidFish might look like a little girl, but in reality she is a woman-in-training.

Dear Chore Chart,

We need to talk. Lately, I feel like things between us have gotten out of control. When we first met, I welcomed you into my home as an assistant. You quickly became more than an assistant to me, you became a real friend. When I was adjusting to life as a stay-at-home mom with a newborn baby, you brought some much needed sanity to my home. You made sure I had clean clothes to wear and clean dishes to eat off of. You helped keep things in order when everything felt so out of control.

Those early days were great, but now our relationship seems less like a partnership and more like a dictatorship. Somewhere along the way we switched places. You went from assistant to boss. Instead of cheering me on after accomplishing a task, you started to make me feel guilty for every unfinished chore. I found myself exchanging time with my daughter for time with a mop and sponge just to make you happy. Every time I played make-believe with her instead of wash dishes I felt like I was doing the wrong thing.

I feel worthless and inadequate because you measure my value in household chores.

We need to re-evaluate our relationship. You are my assistant, not my master. You do not get to tell me who I am or what my value is. You do not get to determine my worth as a person or my effectiveness as a mother. What you do get to do is gently remind me that I have a responsibility to keep my home reasonably tidy, that I function best in order, not chaos, and that you really are here to help.

I really do appreciate you and all the calm you’ve brought into my home. I hope you will stay. Life is better with you than without you.

Sincerely,
MamaFish

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Hi! My name is Loni (a.k.a. MamaFish). I'm a maker, mother and Mrs. and I'm on a mission to cover the world with smiles! This is where I write about fun stuff for kids and the grown-ups who love them. Read more...

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